feakbeak
Sep 24, 08:01 PM
There are multiple angles to the situation. He is 18 and even if he wasn't - he's still his own person and does make his own decisions. Still, you do have influence over his life since you pay the bills and provide for him. This doesn't give you the right to harass him but I think it is fair to set rules for what time you want him home and if he can sleep over somewhere else. I wouldn't push the "you can't have sex" thing because he's going to do what he wants, but if you do not approve tell him you don't approve of teenagers having sex for whatever your reasons you may have. Also explain that he can (and will) make his own decisions and that you will be respectful of that. He will have to be responsible for those choices. Encourage him to have safe sex and give the usual advice. I don't think you need to put the condoms in his hands though.
When I was 19, I was in college and my gf lived about four hours away, during the summer we'd visit each other for weekends and such and we had to stay at each other's parents' house out of necessity. Neither of our parents allowed us to sleep in the same room. We weren't having intercourse anyway, but we were intimate during these visits and if we had wanted to we would have had intercourse - where there's a will, there's a way! You can't stop that but I think it is fair to set the "rules of your home" and if he doens't follow them there are consequences: paying rent, pulling his share, etc. Many on this board find this to be unreasonable, but I don't - it's your home. I don't think you need to butt heads on this topic. If you talk about it like reasonable adults I'm sure you can come to a reasonable compromise that you're both comfortable with. Just be open-minded, honest and willing to concede on some points if he makes valid arguments. Talk to him without coming off as judgmental or controlling - it sounds like he is reaching out for your approval/guidance to some extent.
Don't make your love conditional, but your financial support and what you will tolerate in your home is conditional. My step-sister (22-years old) needed a place to stay when starting work after college and so she crashed with me. It was only for about two months. She didn't pay any rent and she was just sleeping on my couch. I told her I didn't want her having sex with guys in my livingroom. It's my home and I didn't want to walk in on that or hear it going on in my small condo - it would have been weird. She had guys over, caught them making out... fine. I didn't care what she did, she stayed over at guy's places which was fine by me. We both we're fine with our arrangement, probably because we talked it over like adults. I didn't want to control her life at all, I just didn't want MY home to feel uncomfortable for me. I guess that's a completely different situation, but it illustrates my point.
Don't try to stop the sex, becuase you can't. Don't be an ass about it becuase you'll only push him away. Tell him it is his choice to have sex but that since you don't approve of it and you provide for him that you're not going to set "house rules" that encourage it or make it easy. Do be open, honest and support him no matter what he chooses to do. This isn't something worth losing a very valuable relationship over.
When I was 19, I was in college and my gf lived about four hours away, during the summer we'd visit each other for weekends and such and we had to stay at each other's parents' house out of necessity. Neither of our parents allowed us to sleep in the same room. We weren't having intercourse anyway, but we were intimate during these visits and if we had wanted to we would have had intercourse - where there's a will, there's a way! You can't stop that but I think it is fair to set the "rules of your home" and if he doens't follow them there are consequences: paying rent, pulling his share, etc. Many on this board find this to be unreasonable, but I don't - it's your home. I don't think you need to butt heads on this topic. If you talk about it like reasonable adults I'm sure you can come to a reasonable compromise that you're both comfortable with. Just be open-minded, honest and willing to concede on some points if he makes valid arguments. Talk to him without coming off as judgmental or controlling - it sounds like he is reaching out for your approval/guidance to some extent.
Don't make your love conditional, but your financial support and what you will tolerate in your home is conditional. My step-sister (22-years old) needed a place to stay when starting work after college and so she crashed with me. It was only for about two months. She didn't pay any rent and she was just sleeping on my couch. I told her I didn't want her having sex with guys in my livingroom. It's my home and I didn't want to walk in on that or hear it going on in my small condo - it would have been weird. She had guys over, caught them making out... fine. I didn't care what she did, she stayed over at guy's places which was fine by me. We both we're fine with our arrangement, probably because we talked it over like adults. I didn't want to control her life at all, I just didn't want MY home to feel uncomfortable for me. I guess that's a completely different situation, but it illustrates my point.
Don't try to stop the sex, becuase you can't. Don't be an ass about it becuase you'll only push him away. Tell him it is his choice to have sex but that since you don't approve of it and you provide for him that you're not going to set "house rules" that encourage it or make it easy. Do be open, honest and support him no matter what he chooses to do. This isn't something worth losing a very valuable relationship over.
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Apr 11, 04:06 PM
Either way is fine.
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SwiftLives
May 4, 02:21 PM
But what if torturing a person who is involved in the plans of a terrorist attack could prevent thousands of deaths?
Torturing would never be a good action, but it is like killing someone to defend yourself, killing is bad, but the result of killing saved your life.
In the case of torture, it is the government defending its people (country). If it can be avoided better, but I would rather authorize torture instead of letting attacks happen.
EDIT: As with everything, every single case needs to be analyzed separately.
But there is absolutely no guarantee or, to my knowledge, no proof that torture results in any useful intelligence whatsoever. And killing someone to save your own life is defending yourself. Not sure how torture could ever be considered an act of self-defense.
Torturing would never be a good action, but it is like killing someone to defend yourself, killing is bad, but the result of killing saved your life.
In the case of torture, it is the government defending its people (country). If it can be avoided better, but I would rather authorize torture instead of letting attacks happen.
EDIT: As with everything, every single case needs to be analyzed separately.
But there is absolutely no guarantee or, to my knowledge, no proof that torture results in any useful intelligence whatsoever. And killing someone to save your own life is defending yourself. Not sure how torture could ever be considered an act of self-defense.
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Apr 23, 03:10 AM
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Chip NoVaMac
Sep 26, 10:57 AM
I don't think so... there is a growing number of instances when the authorities and the parents involved are 'wising' up to false claims.
False claims, yes. But what is a false claim is the question. "Unwanted" sex is a crime in most states, that is classified as rape.
Add to that depending on the ages involved, it is possible to be classified as a "sexual offender", even if it is consensual - even if you thought your partner was of legal age, or said they were of legal age.
False claims, yes. But what is a false claim is the question. "Unwanted" sex is a crime in most states, that is classified as rape.
Add to that depending on the ages involved, it is possible to be classified as a "sexual offender", even if it is consensual - even if you thought your partner was of legal age, or said they were of legal age.
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Limiting iPods is just more admin for the consumer, which is tedious enough in the first place. Just stick to DVDs and appropriate software.
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MaxBurn
May 3, 04:32 PM
My warranty is about to run out and I am considering applecare for the second year.
If the phone gets replaced under applecare is it used up or do you still get the rest of the time? I think it's the full two years no matter what handset right?
For about $70 it rather seems worth it with the potential bugs these phones can have.
If the phone gets replaced under applecare is it used up or do you still get the rest of the time? I think it's the full two years no matter what handset right?
For about $70 it rather seems worth it with the potential bugs these phones can have.
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Littleodie914
Feb 12, 05:06 PM
It was just a joke in response to the "tyrannical digital overlords" comment :rolleyes:
If you think anyone is abusing their "power", report it, and if you're right we'll soon be demoted.
Don't worry, he's promised to be a good boy. And he knows that he has to keep it clean.
DHaha yea, I know, all in good fun. :p
I'm sure all new positions will be honorably filled :D
If you think anyone is abusing their "power", report it, and if you're right we'll soon be demoted.
Don't worry, he's promised to be a good boy. And he knows that he has to keep it clean.
DHaha yea, I know, all in good fun. :p
I'm sure all new positions will be honorably filled :D
ozontheroad
Oct 31, 11:57 AM
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Reward 4 Return 555.555.6789 Taylor B.
Frank Ford 555.555.6789 Please Return
Always in my thoughts. Love, Fred
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When you speak, it's music to my ears.
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iApache
Apr 5, 08:39 AM
Lamborghini Aventador :)
Turn your speakers up and skip to 1:50
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Turn your speakers up and skip to 1:50
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kironin
Apr 7, 06:31 PM
I've been getting "Call Failed" on about 25% of my phone call attempts since 4.3.1. It's really, really annoying.
I know several people that have upgraded and suddenly have lots of dropped calls and failed call attempts.
I know several people that have upgraded and suddenly have lots of dropped calls and failed call attempts.
Vegasman
Apr 4, 01:24 PM
If you don't know that you can negotiate a better deal when leaving or after you have left, and you rely on giving up your personal info in order to obtain such "benefits," you deserve what you get.
And to borrow your line of argument, let those of us who value our privacy stick with Apple, and you go enjoy Android and let FT and everyone else know everything about you.
I don't have any android devices.
And to borrow your line of argument, let those of us who value our privacy stick with Apple, and you go enjoy Android and let FT and everyone else know everything about you.
I don't have any android devices.
onthecouchagain
Apr 15, 11:49 PM
Is it me or is the "Family Banner" ad insanely obnoxious? Anytime you inadvertently scroll over it, it expands and fills up the whole screen.
FortWorthMac
Oct 9, 04:38 PM
So what are the notifications all about? They're not push so what are they? I set one earlier but that person hasn't tweeted since.
That's what I'm trying to figure out too.
It doesn't true "psuh notifications" as I wasn't given the setup alert from te phone that the iPhone OS provides.
I set one up on a tweeter I follow (the iphone blog) and within minutes they happen to send out a tweet but I got nothing. So I'm not sure......
That's what I'm trying to figure out too.
It doesn't true "psuh notifications" as I wasn't given the setup alert from te phone that the iPhone OS provides.
I set one up on a tweeter I follow (the iphone blog) and within minutes they happen to send out a tweet but I got nothing. So I'm not sure......
Aboo
Dec 25, 07:16 PM
A hoodie,
$50 best buy gift card (Any ideas on what to buy..i have pretty much everything I need/want..)
$50 American Express gift card.
From friends:
One of those huge Gummy Bears (It's the size of my hand..)
A T-Shirt.
I'll buy the BB gift card off of you if you want. PM me :p
$50 best buy gift card (Any ideas on what to buy..i have pretty much everything I need/want..)
$50 American Express gift card.
From friends:
One of those huge Gummy Bears (It's the size of my hand..)
A T-Shirt.
I'll buy the BB gift card off of you if you want. PM me :p
Banjhiyi
Mar 31, 10:47 AM
We will we be getting the full Adobe experience with this, such as having to re-install the OS each time an upgrade or patch is released?
;)
;)
CaptMurdock
Dec 3, 08:48 PM
Mine for this Month, Last one of the year!!
All you want for Christmas...?
All you want for Christmas...?
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